A CHANGE IN BEHAVIOR DOES NOT BEGIN WITH THE “BABIES”………….
Hearing these ads for some behavior changing program called the “Total Transformation” makes me wonder about the people who are putting the ad or service or program out and who might be sponsoring them, sponsors you are not hearing about over the ad spot.
Changing the behavior of the child is like trying to change the behavior of the puppy while you are showing it examples of being bad, ugly, rude, hypocritical, and otherwise sinful and undisciplined. After all, the child does not start out being “bad” or “evil”; adults (so-called grown-ups) are the ones who are being the bad examples and displaying the behaviors they do not want the kids to have.
YET THERE THEY ARE OUT THERE EVERY DAY DISPLAYING BAD BEHAVIOR! Right where the kids can see it, can emulate it, can judge it and can do it- the guns, the drugs, the smoking and drinking, the prostitution, the sex games, the lying at work, the cheating at work, the gossip, the shady business deals, the domestic abuse, the hypocrisy, the cheating on spouses, the lack of child support payments…
AND THE ADULTS WANT THE KIDS TO CHANGE THEIR WAYS?
Please, folks. Who is setting the bad example here? It isn’t the kid. A puppy can be trained to be a good dog or a bad dog, a docile “good citizen” dog or an attack dog that is good only for guarding Fort Knox. The child is born with the same potential- the new young citizen can be trained to be a good child, a great citizen and a productive, contributing member of society, or brought up in an atmosphere of abuse, drugs and smoking, lying and cheating and dropouts and inmates, and carry these behaviors through life. Without encouragement to the better behaviors that make a good citizen, that is exactly what will happen to that child that those adults want to be good and honest and right.
THAT IS, UNLESS THOSE ADULTS DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE CHILD AT ALL… but let them go about their ways, growing undisciplined, bad, wild, stern, diffused, and unnatural, letting them be spoiled, or just “get by” on their schoolwork, or hang out on the streets, smoking and popping pills and driving fast and being around gangs and pimps. If the adults (or dolts) do not care, then they are the ones who need that “total transformation” program.
DON’T BLAME THE KIDS.
Divi Logan, Chicago, ©2013
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